The Mean Girl Stigma.

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We’ve all encountered ‘mean girls’ at some point in our lives, most of us have even been the mean girl at some point. Subconsciously or not I think we have all fallen into the female stereotype of being bitchy or just plain mean. It’s so easy to sit here and rant about all the mean girl experiences I’ve had but where is that going to get us? It’s something we all go through at some point.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.-socrates”

But do we all stop?

I know for me in my teens I could be nasty, I was a girl who just couldn’t get along with females. But I’ve grown into a woman who supports and empowers other women as I believe a lot girls are that way due to a lack of empowerment.

Even now being a mother of two at 28 I experience ‘mean girls’. Now this doesn’t bother me in the conventional sense it just makes me wonder why. What is it that makes people revert to this bitchy behaviour? For example my daughter has started nursery and there are cliques amongst the mothers. Part of me finds this hilarious but the truth is I find it disturbing, having parents openly slate each other and spread rumours. I’m the ‘newbie’ so I don’t know anyone or care for gossip but just watching it makes me cringe.

I wonder if it’s a confidence thing. Maybe feeling stronger in numbers, I don’t know. Or maybe people use it as a coping mechanism to exude a confidence that isn’t there. Social Media is just as bad. Grown women are always picking each other apart, and for what? What does anyone gain from it? Amongst bloggers and influences there are publicized beefs and rivalry, now I believe competition is healthy. But the truth is you can only compete with yourself, strive to do better today than yesterday. I get looking to people who are more successful for inspiration. But once you start focusing on what other people have, and how they live you lose sight of where you are going and disregard the gifts and achievements you have.

“A wise woman wishes to be no ones enemy. A wise woman  refuses to be anyone’s victim. – Maya Angelou”

Are You A Mean Girl?

Fake friends, frenemies, do you put other females down for no reason? Or gain from the pain of others?

Can you have a conversation without the focus being another person and their actions?

These are all questions we should all bare in mind to keep that mean girl behaviour in check.

“Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back.”

If you are a ‘mean girl’, and enjoy it… why?